Hi Ash, and a big welcome to the forum. As Zena has said, everyone responds to the drugs differently, so the waiting time for one to actually work can be slow and frustrating. I think it has taken most of us a very long time to come to terms with the limitations RA can impose on us, and must be so much worse if you are young, and have had to give up a job you really liked.
I was diagnosed almost 7 years ago now, and my own personal experience was that the first 18 months were extremely difficult - at times I needed to use a wheelchair, as walking was hard. I couldn`t pick up my baby grandson to cuddle him, which was so upsetting. I needed help with so many everyday tasks. During this time, I was put on various different drugs/combinations of drugs, and my wonderful GP did his level best to keep me sane and positive.
At the end of this 18 months, I was put on one of the biologic drugs - adalimumab, (humira.) - and this made a huge difference to my quality of life. Quite frankly, once it started working, after about 6 weeks, the difference was quite amazing. I have been taking it now since August 2007, and I hope it lasts a good while longer yet! There are still things I can`t do, but I can live with those, and you learn to take one day at a time.
Do keep posting, and believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel, however long it takes to get there.
Kathleen x